Even the smoothest roads have a bit of bumps and that is expected because it’s all part of this beautiful thing we call life. Things have been a blessing lately but I recently found myself in a situation, which had me feeling like part of my world was ending – but it was more of a blessing in disguise.
The truth is, I have so much to be thankful for at this moment, and despite my bump in the road it was very necessary to pull up my big girl socks and deal with my S*&% like a big girl. Here are 10 points that helps to get me back into my fabulous mindset. I Hope this helps you as much as it helps me. Xo
1. Be honest with yourself and embrace your feelings.
The worst thing you can do to yourself is place your feelings aside – especially if you are hurt. The chances of your feelings re-surfacing and crashing are high. Don’t get me wrong, there are some issues that just need to be tossed to the waste side! However, even in those situations you should still admit your feelings to yourself.
2. Analyze how you got there.
Think about the choices that may have brought you to your bump in the road. This may take some alone time with your thoughts. The best part of healing is the time you get to yourself to think.
I keep an ‘inspiration journal’ and I write almost everything that make a difference in my life. Once you have collected your thoughts, or maybe your thoughts are still cluttered? Writing out how you feel will make things a bit more clear. You will be surprised at what you put onto paper.
4. Forgive yourself
One of the most important points! This is where you really let go and breathe. There is no way you can move forward if you don’t forgive yourself for ending up at that bump in the road! Pinch yourself…did it hurt? Yup, that’s because you are human! And guess what? S*&@ happens! Dwelling on the past is only going to make you feel worse. Therefore, you need to acknowledge what you went through and be ready to forgive yourself. The future is still waiting for you and it needs your best self!
5. Tell yourself just how much you deserve the best.
Remind yourself that you have just one life, and one shot to live it. This means you deserve the best regardless. You don’t deserve to feel broken just because life throws a few curve balls. Find a way to lift yourself!
6. Tell yourself 3 amazing things about yourself.
This is the time when you begin to boost your appreciation for yourself. I like to do the “I AM” activity. E.g. I am beautiful, I am strong, I am greatness. Remind yourself of these things every single day. You deserve to recognize your unique qualities. There is nothing wrong with a boost of self-confidence.
7. What have you learned about yourself?
In every situation there is a valuable lesson to be learned. What has your situation taught you? Did you learn something new about yourself and what can you do differently next time? I am a strong believer in the saying ‘everything happens for a reason’ because everything happens to take you to your rightful destiny.
8. How will you get back on track?
I have noticed that when we get thrown off track, we want to stay there and relish in our sorrows. This is a NO NO. It is important to get right back into the grove of your daily activity. Hit the gym, do yoga, meet with friends. Whatever tickles your fancy, just get back into it.
9. Everything will be O.K :)
There are going to be moments of doubt even when you thought you had it all figured out. But the one thing you always need to understand is that it will all be o.k no matter what.
10. Trust God.
Last but not least, this is to reinforce the last point. No matter what is happening it’s always important to trust in your higher power.